How About A Little Inspiration ??

On the Journey to discovering self , there are certain questions which  tend to come up such as ;  Are we all actors on a stage?What is the difference between entertainers , professionally skilled individuals who are successful at what they do and those who are not? Is there any indication of where purpose lies ?  These and many more make up the questions that arise in our minds at certain points however I found this video clip by Denzel which not only  gives some solid insight into these questions  but gives a  a great way to start off the week.  Have a Fab Week people !!

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The Set Up a.ka Yes I am Single Part 2 !!!!!!

With the rise of a lot of wedding blogs ,sites and invitations, It could be almost impossible for a girl not to get mesmerized with it or as we say catch the wedding fever.  Even if you do not frequent some of the weddings sites ,  invitation from friends knock at your door .If that is not the case, then maybe a family member might just send one or a colleague at work.

I find it  funny how not too long ago our main concern was to get an education. In the process try to make some friends, join most of the fun school clubs , make the best grades , make some more friends  and nothing else mattered . It was all fun and games . The widely made instruction by most of the parents was focus on what you were sent to school to do no time for boyfriends. Then school ends and they cant seem to have an important conversation without marriage being included. Don't get me wrong .I don't disagree with a genuine question about it but when it becomes so frequent and it goes beyond family to the society as a whole asking questions, it could  mount pressure on a girl. At weddings attended ,one aunt or two must extend pleasantries with questions about marriage and some are bold enough to utter words like "don't worry  next time it will be yours" or "We are waiting for you". Thus mounting unnecessary pressure and dis content in the minds  of people.
A lot of females  get depressed when they haven't met that guy . I mean the sociological and biological clock is ticking so it is only right that one should get worried about the issue. I mean you need a reply to give those people who wont stop asking questions  however , this makes a lot of  people  rush into marriage , make mistakes , hence one of the major contributions to  the high rate of divorces. Don't get me wrong I am all for marriage  , all for love, ( evident in the fact that I watched days of our lives for almost ** years of my life)  and all for relationships.I mean I have saved pictures from bella naija and some other weddings sites and I may or may not have my playlist for my wedding*wink*. However, I feel that nobody should be  pressured into it . Nobody should be made to feel unhappy or inadequate because they are unmarried.. Some of us have even come to believe that that is where our happiness lies but the truth is that there are married people that are truly unhappy and there are single people that are unhappy too so happiness does not necessarily depend on your relationship status changing or a huge ring being placed on your finger or being single either.
               It lies in knowing yourself and loving yourself first .  You only bring to the table who you are , if you are an unhappy person, the fact that a wedding takes places does does not mean that space of unhappiness suddenly disappears( More on this in later post). This unhappiness and desperation has led a lot of people to settle for less and to worry. You should love yourself enough not to settle for someone who does not respect you or treat you right . I know society tries to  put this pressure on however, society will not be there with you when you are sad and you feel all alone in  the marriage.  Nobody should make you rush into anything you are not ready for or make you question God's ability to give you the right person. The one who respects you and loves you  and appreciates you .
 You see, me too , I love love, I love the romantics, and Love to be loved but I am against rushing into a marriage because of society or any other wrong reasons. You are the apple of God's eye. His own masterpiece. A reflection of him made in his image and his likeness . You deserve to be treated right, you deserve to be loved right and treated with honor , " the bible says  that a husband is to love the wife even as Christ loves the church" - eph 5: 25

"Husband, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church - a love marked by giving , not getting. Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty.Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, Dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness". - The Mess Eph 5 : 25- 28

Don't let this pressures undermine what God has planned for you. Let it be resolved in your mind that his plans for you are "Good " .Don't you think finding a good partner is good? Don't you think being treated right is good ? I tell you that as long you are open to marriage , you are being sociable, the right person would come along. You don't need to worry or settle .
 "For I know the plans that I have for you ' declares the lord , plans for good and not for disaster to give you a future and a hope". - Jer 29: 11

I know its pretty hard for some of us not to worry about it but worrying really does not help. It is also a demonstration of lack of trust in God. No to fear, No to worrying and Yes to Enjoying yourself, being happy ,holding on to what God says and going about life knowing that  Jesus has got you covered.

Wednesday Song day !!!!

 This weeks song of the week  reminds me so much about this scripture

So , what do you think ? With God on your side like this, how can we lose? If God didn't hesitate to put everything on the line for us, embracing our condition and exposing himself to the worst by sending his own son, is there anything else he wouldn't gladly and freely do for us? Rom 8: 32

It is really an encouragement not just for marriage but for everything else.If only you can take out time everyday this week to reflect on God's love for you , everything else seems pretty small ;remember that he who loved us so much and sent his only begotten son for us,would freely give us all things .It is this love that makes us remain confident and bold that what he says is true and more true than anything else. `

Song of the week - How He loves by Jesus Culture . This song is simply amazing. God's love is amazing. Hope you love it. Enjoy Your Week !!!!

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Must See Clip ;Yes! I am Single !!!!!!!!

Hey people. This week  is  pretty exciting for me as I share my perspective on a very delicate issue "Marriage" . I had heard about the pressure in our society about it .However , I was in school away from home so I hadn't experienced it first hand.  It was quite surprising and interesting  that  not long after I got home, I had this conversation ;
 Aunt :Is there anybody,
Me :No
Aunt :  Why ?
Me :  Well, because there just  isn't anyone
 Then I had a smile on my face and I laughed about it. To my surprise , my aunt who is usually laid back had this stern look and states that it is a serious issue. Caught up with old friends to discover there were similar issues all around. Lets not bring in the weddings and the side comments by people about when yours is going to happen . This inspired the decision to talk about it .Enjoy the discussion below that covers part of this topic. I found this video  really intriguing  don't necessarily agree with every perspective shared  but it truly covers a lot of the insecurities and issues people have because of the pressures affiliated with marriage. Please share and do check out my post on Wednesday; for the Song Of The Week and Friday for the post  "The set up a.k.a as  "Yes I  Am Single 2".




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Wednesday Song Day !!!!!

"This is what the lord says  Heaven is my throne , and the earth is my footstool. Where is the house you will build for me?Where will my resting place be? Isiah 66:1  This week's song of the week is a reminder of  the greatness of our God . Take a moment to picture this ; The one  in whom the nations are as drop in a bucket to ,is our God.
" Behold the nations are as a drop in a bucket, And are counted as small dust on the scales ; look, he lifts up the isles as a very little thing " - Isiah 40 : 8

The one who  speaks and the winds and waves obey him is our God.
" What Kind of Man is this ? Even the winds and waves obey him " -Matthew 8:27

The one who breathes and the enemies of his own are destroyed is our God

 "You blew on the sea and the water piled up high;it stood up straight like a wall;the deepest part of the sea became solid . The enemy said , 'I will pursue them and catch them ;I will divide their wealth and take all  I want ; I will draw my sword and take all I want ; I will draw my sword and take all they have 'But one breath from you,Lord, and the Egyptians were drowned ; they sank like lead in the terrible water". -exodus 15 :8-10

That same God yesterday is Our God and he is the same God today.

Circumstances cannot contain our God, neither do they phase him . He is too Big and mighty to be contained.  Be encouraged this week that there is no circumstance or anything you face that is bigger than your God or bigger than you for he  that is for you and  inside of  you is greater than he that is in the world.



Song Of The Week - Chris Tomlin ; How Great Is Our God .  Hope you love It. Have a Fab Week !!!




  The People of God worshiping him with the same song  in different languages.


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Never Say Never Series Vol 1 ; Dying to self

We are beyond excited to share our very first interview with you all.  We enjoy when we hear and see the change that Jesus  makes in the life of people . It is quite amazing when you hear where people have been, how God has saved them and continues to save. This interview with Miss Odion Omojiade  is the first of many more more interviews and  stories to come and our aim really is to share the best gift ever given Jesus with you.


Dying Daily to Self
A young Passionate and resilient Lady who works with an NGO, enjoys travelling, reading books, listening to music(non -secular) and pod casts rooted in the word of God.

She  balances her time by hanging out with friends and volunteering at a children's center close to home and church on Sundays. 

The Old Odion
Miss Omojiade was born in a christian household and attended church every Sunday however, 'that relationship' with God was missing. While in University she like any other young lady at the time , was on a quest in exploring the most talked about TV show Gossip Girl.Unfortunately, she stumbled upon something else (Pornography). It became an addiction she struggled with for two years. She was secretive about it and never told anyone. She knew it was wrong and destructive but could not exercise that  restraint over herself.The fact that she was self-disciplined helped her not to fool around with guys but to focus on her education yet this in itself was not enough as pornography affected her religious life because on some Sundays she wouldn't go to church for fear of soiling the church  after she had engaged in those acts during the course of the week. It was difficult to put a halt to it, she lived in the guilt and condemnation.


The Change
What Changed?
I didn't have that prodigal son moment *lol*(The coming to your senses moment)
I was desperately searching for spirituality, wanted to know God , wanted a close relationship with God.
My Friend had this relationship I could see it when we hung out and  I craved the relationship she  had. I tried to do it on my own .I couldn't go to church because I just didn't think they will understand. I started reading books.I attended youth programmes with the hope that I would find him and find the help I craved.

 One day on the bus , my mind was interrupted with lustful thoughts, and right there I asked God to do his work in me since he is the God that does the impossible.I made the decision to get baptized and from that old person to this new person. Its almost like a dream .Sin had lied to me and promised to satisfy me.I was totally blind, and would not have seen  the things I know now. I am forever grateful to God . It was not a one day epiphany for me,it was a step by step process and it still is.

Behold all Things Have Become New
I  started tweeting words laid in my heart by the holy spirit and inspirational truths which  I had started to live by when a friend urged me to start a blog .I  honestly didn't want to at first because I was not ready for the work involved .After much hesitation and the constant push by my friend, I got to do it.


What Inspired the Name dying To self?
I actually prayed about it, I didn't want it to be about me. We do not live for ourselves , we live for him. Every day we wake up we tell him we are weak without him, we need his help ...things are happening and I do not want to give in to self. Asked him If it is okay for it to be this and I don't think he disputed, because I tried another name ' not about me ' and it was taken.

Friends and The world
 Some people are still not okay with it. I was reminded by someone that I was not the person I used to be; we are young and should have fun.Some feel they can't talk to me about boys anymore (didn't give them a reason to think that). I was hurt when friends stopped talking to me. The bold ones told me to my face. Basically, people just walked away because of the labels they have put on Christians. It was quite tough, but
the holy spirit has helped me respond with love.

I am not pointing people to Christ because I have had my fun and its now Jesus time. I cannot force anyone but what I can do, is to tell of what he has done for me and the true satisfaction that only he can give .


What  Happens When Things Do Not Go As Planned ? Would You Go Back?
The thing is, Jesus did not promise  that it will go smoothly. I've never seen where in the bible it says that when you give your life to Christ you'll have no troubles. I have faced persecutions( of course not Jesus Kind of persecutions) but there will be opposition and obstacles but the word of God is our sword that we use everyday . Those moments will come , they came while I was in the world and they still come now, the difference is Jesus is my solid rock now.

When the persecutions come I lean on the Holy spirit . I try to be honest with him in prayer, I let my heart out to him in prayer and he gives me his overwhelming peace through his word.


What Is Your Take On Relationships?
I am not in a relationship at the moment but I would definitely be attracted to a man who is in love with God, which is also reflected in the  the company he keeps and what he is doing. A man who is actually married to Christ and not dating him on the side .

He will be in my life not to complete me because Jesus already completed me but add to me and we will both advance the Kingdom of God together.

It is just easier because when the Guy is God centered he wouldn't put you in compromising situations.

In all things we need to CHOOSE RIGHT, God has given us the power to choose between life  and death , so choose life so you and your descendants may live.
By the leading of the Holy spirit and godly guidance you get to know things you cannot see with your natural eyes.

Finding Some Balance In This Busy World
There is frankly always a lot to be done and there needs to be a balance especially If you live in a busy city but it is important to remember that in spite of how demanding the days may be, God has given us the capacity to do all that he has entrusted to us.

Grace be with you always .....................................


Credits :  Interview by Debbie Fash for The Fv Factor.
Thanks Odion for sharing your time with us.

You can  check out Miss Omojiade's Blog " Dying daily to Self " and also join her and the  Connect C4C group this Sunday for a joint prayer section for the chibok girls # bring back our girls.

For More Information on this, check the 'Connect C4C ' page on Facebook.

Wednesday Song Day ; Hope Will Not Dissapoint

Happy New Month  People !!! I guess we have all seen or at least heard of the missing Chibok girls issues #bring back our girls ( in Nigeria).  I could have chosen to ignore as it has not affected me personally. After all, the north is far away from the West, and since the government does not care  why should I? but it would be totally ignorant to do so because like it or not , those girls are children t, sisters ,cousins and friends to some people.Tribe and religion aside, they are Nigerians and  do not deserve to be abducted , ill treated and unsafe in their own country.This  draws attention to the security issues in the country and  We all agree on the fact that we all need to know that we can  feel safe to a certain extent  in our own country. No Nigerian deserves to be treated this way. It is quite disheartening when you listen to the comments of the President and the antics or display of the firstly lady on the media on this particular issue  but I want to remind us that as long as there is life there is hope. Nigeria is not a hopeless situation, Our country cannot and will not be a lost cause. He who is able to save to the ends of the earth and lives to make intercession for us is alive .Don't give up hope ;don't stop praying , backing up your prayers with actions  and getting involved in any way that you can . As tempting as it is to get carried away and filled with rage towards the government, lets refrain from  uttering malicious  remember that the aim and goal behind participating, is to draw attention to this issue and bring our Girls back home..May Him who sits on the throne , he who is able to frustrate the plans of the enemy and able to make a way in the wilderness, Make a way for our Country.  It is well with Nigeria.



Our Song of the week is by Joyous Celebration - I will Lift my Eyes .Hope you love it.

P.s  Do check out the very first interview for the blog  on Friday.  Have a Fab Week.

IF You Only Knew!!!!!!

Death where is your sting. Jesus has made history.If only you knew that the very act you thought will harm him,would rather make his name known  all over the world  2000 years now and counting.If only you knew that his spirit could not be held bound by death.That his perfect love can never ever  be overcome .That he the King in life  is King even in death and  would forever remain King, you would not have condemned him .It sure looked totally hopeless but because you did .We were crucified with him and all our sins are washed away to be remembered know more . We are risen in him ,with new life in us not to be held bound by sin, by guit by shame or past mistakes.For there is therefore no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus rom 8:1. 

This song Forever by Kari Jobe embodies this truth . It is truly a beautiful song .I hope you love it and  I hope  it gives you encouragement  and reminds you of the great love that has been shown towards us. Have a blessed Weekend!!!!

The moon and stars they wept

The morning sun was dead
The Savior of the world was fallen
His body on the cross
His blood poured out for us
The weight of every curse upon him
As Heaven looked away
The Son of God was laid in darkness
A battle in the grave
The war on death was waged
The power of hell forever broken
The stone was rolled away
His perfect love could not be overcome
Now death where is your sting
Our resurrected King has rendered you defeated
Forever, He is glorified
Forever, He is risen
He is alive
He is alive
The stone was rolled away
His perfect love could not be overcome
Now death where is your sting
Our resurrected King has rendered you defeated
Forever, He is lifted high
Forever, He is risen
He is alive
He is alive
Forever, forever
Your resurrected King
You have overcome the grave
You have overcome
We sing Hallelujah
We sing Hallelujah
The Lamb has overcome
We sing Hallelujah
We sing Hallelujah
The Lamb has overcome
We sing Hallelujah
We sing Hallelujah
The Lamb has overcome
We sing Hallelujah
We sing Hallelujah
The Lamb has overcome
We sing Hallelujah
We sing Hallelujah
The Lamb has overcome
We sing Hallelujah
We sing Hallelujah
The Lamb has overcome
Forever, He is lifted high
Forever, He is risen
He is alive
He is alive (Forever)
Forever, He is lifted high
Forever, He is risen
He is alive
He is alive

One final breath He gave

The ground began to shake

Forever, He is lifted high

The ground began to shake

Forever, He is glorified

You have overcome

We sing Hallelujah

We sing Hallelujah

We sing Hallelujah

We sing Hallelujah

We sing Hallelujah

We sing Hallelujah

Forever, He is glorified

Forever, He is glorified

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