You feel like you have a right to be angry and apologized to but what if the apology never comes . Do you still harbor all the animosity within you? I mean it is your heart that skips a bit when the person walks into a room, when you hear the persons name or any reference at all is made to the person. The person may not necessarily deserve your forgiveness but you will need to forgive for you regardless. Unforgivness only allow bitterness and anger in and clogs up your relationship with God. While most times the other person goes on with life like nothing happens.
Forgive For You
Thus you need to forgive for you.The type of sin should not be a factor as you cannot afford to give someone the power over your happiness and joy. Yes, you have been hurt and although you are not really to trust anyone, you trusted a person or persons.You expected more simply because you will do the same .However as one of my mentors says "you cannot be pitiful and powerful at the same time". You have to choose one. Self pity will only keep you from progressing and it keeps you bitter . The bible says that Christ came that we may have life and have it to the the full till it over flows. A life with bitterness, rage and anger surely cannot be the life God predestined for us . You decide if you want to live the abundant life or not by your decision to either let go or be held bound.
Most importantly you need to forgive that you might be forgiven.Most times you know what God expects of you and what you should do but you just want to have some form of justice for you.
Matthew 18:23-35 Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. And when he had begun to settle accounts, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. But as he was not able to pay, his master commanded that he be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and that payment be made. The servant therefore fell down before him, saying, 'Master, have patience with me, and I will pay you all.' Then the master of that servant was moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt. But that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, 'Pay me what you owe!' So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, 'Have patience with me, and I will pay you all.' And he would not, but went and threw him into prison till he should pay the debt. So when his fellow servants saw what had been done, they were very grieved, and came and told their master all that had been done. Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, 'You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. 'Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?' And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him. So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses. (NKJV)
Thus It is not sufficient to verbally say that you have forgiven the person or persons when you know in your heart that you clearly have not.You need to forgive from your heart totally like you were forgiven because unforgiveness will not just break you it also hinders your relationship with God. I found that it is a disguised tool used by the enemy to keep us bitter and angry and to impede our relationship with God.It may seem difficult but I strongly believe that if God tells us to do something (forgive) .He says it to us because we can through him. The bible says as he was so are we in the world if he could forgive peter his beloved disciple that betrayed him we can also forgive what seems like the unforgivable ..How can I do that you may ask ?
Forgive For Jesus
Focus on Jesus .If you remember that Jesus died to save the whole world which includes that individual or group of individuals, it makes it easier. Let God's love engraved deep in your heart compel you to forgive. They may not deserve it but we did not deserve it too when Jesus gave it all up for us by dying on the cross. Selective application on Gods word on forgiveness will not work. There are no clauses .He simply said Forgive.We are his disciples .We cannot doubt that we have the ability to forgive because in him sister, we can do all things . I Know it hurts but you can forgive , you can let go if you would only let God help you.
Prayer
Father you know the depths of my heart . You fashioned me, you see me and if there is anyone that knows how to heal my heart . It is you my creator, my father and friend.Father because of your love for me I am certain that you have more for me .For you promised that you who sent your son will now freely give us all things if we ask. Lord I ask that you heal my heart and grant me your peace that surpasses all understanding .Help me forgive like you will forgive and love like you will love.Today I declare that I am free from the bondage of hurt and pain.
With lots and lots of love
Kike Akinola for The FV Factor
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