The Set Up a.ka Yes I am Single Part 2 !!!!!!

With the rise of a lot of wedding blogs ,sites and invitations, It could be almost impossible for a girl not to get mesmerized with it or as we say catch the wedding fever.  Even if you do not frequent some of the weddings sites ,  invitation from friends knock at your door .If that is not the case, then maybe a family member might just send one or a colleague at work.

I find it  funny how not too long ago our main concern was to get an education. In the process try to make some friends, join most of the fun school clubs , make the best grades , make some more friends  and nothing else mattered . It was all fun and games . The widely made instruction by most of the parents was focus on what you were sent to school to do no time for boyfriends. Then school ends and they cant seem to have an important conversation without marriage being included. Don't get me wrong .I don't disagree with a genuine question about it but when it becomes so frequent and it goes beyond family to the society as a whole asking questions, it could  mount pressure on a girl. At weddings attended ,one aunt or two must extend pleasantries with questions about marriage and some are bold enough to utter words like "don't worry  next time it will be yours" or "We are waiting for you". Thus mounting unnecessary pressure and dis content in the minds  of people.
A lot of females  get depressed when they haven't met that guy . I mean the sociological and biological clock is ticking so it is only right that one should get worried about the issue. I mean you need a reply to give those people who wont stop asking questions  however , this makes a lot of  people  rush into marriage , make mistakes , hence one of the major contributions to  the high rate of divorces. Don't get me wrong I am all for marriage  , all for love, ( evident in the fact that I watched days of our lives for almost ** years of my life)  and all for relationships.I mean I have saved pictures from bella naija and some other weddings sites and I may or may not have my playlist for my wedding*wink*. However, I feel that nobody should be  pressured into it . Nobody should be made to feel unhappy or inadequate because they are unmarried.. Some of us have even come to believe that that is where our happiness lies but the truth is that there are married people that are truly unhappy and there are single people that are unhappy too so happiness does not necessarily depend on your relationship status changing or a huge ring being placed on your finger or being single either.
               It lies in knowing yourself and loving yourself first .  You only bring to the table who you are , if you are an unhappy person, the fact that a wedding takes places does does not mean that space of unhappiness suddenly disappears( More on this in later post). This unhappiness and desperation has led a lot of people to settle for less and to worry. You should love yourself enough not to settle for someone who does not respect you or treat you right . I know society tries to  put this pressure on however, society will not be there with you when you are sad and you feel all alone in  the marriage.  Nobody should make you rush into anything you are not ready for or make you question God's ability to give you the right person. The one who respects you and loves you  and appreciates you .
 You see, me too , I love love, I love the romantics, and Love to be loved but I am against rushing into a marriage because of society or any other wrong reasons. You are the apple of God's eye. His own masterpiece. A reflection of him made in his image and his likeness . You deserve to be treated right, you deserve to be loved right and treated with honor , " the bible says  that a husband is to love the wife even as Christ loves the church" - eph 5: 25

"Husband, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church - a love marked by giving , not getting. Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty.Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, Dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness". - The Mess Eph 5 : 25- 28

Don't let this pressures undermine what God has planned for you. Let it be resolved in your mind that his plans for you are "Good " .Don't you think finding a good partner is good? Don't you think being treated right is good ? I tell you that as long you are open to marriage , you are being sociable, the right person would come along. You don't need to worry or settle .
 "For I know the plans that I have for you ' declares the lord , plans for good and not for disaster to give you a future and a hope". - Jer 29: 11

I know its pretty hard for some of us not to worry about it but worrying really does not help. It is also a demonstration of lack of trust in God. No to fear, No to worrying and Yes to Enjoying yourself, being happy ,holding on to what God says and going about life knowing that  Jesus has got you covered.