Being A Christian Is Way Rewarding Than Acting The Part !!

Bishop TD Jakes and Donnie McClurkin on TBN
Hey people,hope your week is  going great. I got to hear this interview and it inspired this write up.There were  certain things which stood out to me which my heart couldn't help but share and I think it's simply amazing how we could all watch the same video  and have different things which really stand out  to us.We would like to hear from you about it too so please feel free to share .
On that note,I'm going to share what I loved about it. The major things were ;Nobody is perfect,holiness is a lifelong process everybody has issues, and  the bishops honesty about his life and family.
Above all of them ,' Holiness is a lifelong Process' really stood out the most to me. The bible says in Rom 12:2 " Be ye not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind ".
Sometimes we forget that its not an instant change. Yes,it is very important that we stay in tune with God ;hearing his word,praying,worshiping,listening to tapes like this e.t.c but also remember that transformation takes time.I love when it makes reference  to  the fact that  people should be allowed to feel how they feel.They should not  be forced by somebody to act a certain way because you are a christian now or talk a certain way ' because somebody thinks you should.It tends to put an immense pressure on people to be perfect .That  Pressure that makes one constantly  aware of how your reactions should be,tends to  push people away.The intention  is usually good, most times,when this is done.However,it would only result in acting a certain way and living a life of hypocrisy without fulling understanding why we should act in a certain way.It should rather be yes you feel a certain way now and your reaction may be different but people should be allowed to go through the process of transformation and grow into what they believe. 'Faith comes by hearing and hearing through the word of God 'We should be allowed to let God himself transform our hearts and minds daily .That soon enough,we begin to see by ourselves and we begin to understand by ourselves the love he has for us and because we daily come to a deeper revelation and realization of that love,our hearts can't help but respond to that love based on the understanding we do have.Which is demonstrated in our reactions to certain things and certain situations which ordinarily we would have done ,because we felt like,but because his love now compels us we choose not to. It's truly way fulfilling to really' be Christians' than just 'acting the part'.

Have a Fun Weekend

With Lots Of Love FV

Hot Topic; Can There Be A Marriage Or Relationship without The Spouse Cheating?

I find that a lot of people especially women have accepted it as their lot in life, some even say well it is second nature and nothing can be done about it .However, I disagree with this perspective .
If you focus all your attention on making your marriage work, it will work.Starve your eyes, ears and mind from anything but your wife or husband. The truth is the grass is not always greener on the other side. When you cut corners, You cannot have it whole. Imagine a square that the corners are cut off, it automatically ceases to be a square, and it becomes a shape nobody knows or cares for. It becomes worthless.
When you cheat on your spouse, for whatever reason and in whatever form, you are robbing not only him or her but also yourself of what could  potentially be a wholesome and healthy relationship.
You are not only disrespectful to him or her but to yourself.If you cannot honor a commitment you made on your wedding day, one man one wife , to have and to hold etc

I find that people don't understand the agreement or contract that is marriage. It is more serious than any business agreement or any sort of contract you can think of.Recently Apple purchased beats beats by Dre for billions of dollars . A contract was put in place and there were terms set ,agreed upon and sealed by the appending of signatures by both parties. Under  no circumstance can that deal be broken because there would be serious legal implications.



Marriage is more binding than that. You essentially take an oath before God.;To honor , care and cherish that individual , no gimmicks.The truth is that there should be an understanding that there are no longer any options anymore. A lot of people say "Men cheat, it's second nature". "It is impossible for them not to" but then what happens to the scripture that says I  can do all things through Christ who strengthens me or With God all things are possible . It doesn't just apply to specific things .God's grace abounds and is limitless.

The same way we trust the word to apply to other situations we have to trust it applies here too.You might still argue it is different but the bible says "ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE" so i believe and know it is possible. Trust God for the grace to stay faithful  to your spouse, and love only him or her.All of God's Grace to a man or woman that doesn't receive it or choose to function in it is like a gift underutilized and neglected. I think we should take advantage of God's grace to do things that ordinarily we might not be able to do on our own .There may be a lot of temptations, sure the flesh and spirit tug at each other  but you can overcome the spirit can prevail . Don't get into it if you want to be married yet act single, It is a commitment to love, cherish, stay faithful and honor those vows .It would take grace and more grace but the good thing about it, is that the grace doesn't run out so it can be done.


WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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The Set Up a.ka Yes I am Single Part 2 !!!!!!

With the rise of a lot of wedding blogs ,sites and invitations, It could be almost impossible for a girl not to get mesmerized with it or as we say catch the wedding fever.  Even if you do not frequent some of the weddings sites ,  invitation from friends knock at your door .If that is not the case, then maybe a family member might just send one or a colleague at work.

I find it  funny how not too long ago our main concern was to get an education. In the process try to make some friends, join most of the fun school clubs , make the best grades , make some more friends  and nothing else mattered . It was all fun and games . The widely made instruction by most of the parents was focus on what you were sent to school to do no time for boyfriends. Then school ends and they cant seem to have an important conversation without marriage being included. Don't get me wrong .I don't disagree with a genuine question about it but when it becomes so frequent and it goes beyond family to the society as a whole asking questions, it could  mount pressure on a girl. At weddings attended ,one aunt or two must extend pleasantries with questions about marriage and some are bold enough to utter words like "don't worry  next time it will be yours" or "We are waiting for you". Thus mounting unnecessary pressure and dis content in the minds  of people.
A lot of females  get depressed when they haven't met that guy . I mean the sociological and biological clock is ticking so it is only right that one should get worried about the issue. I mean you need a reply to give those people who wont stop asking questions  however , this makes a lot of  people  rush into marriage , make mistakes , hence one of the major contributions to  the high rate of divorces. Don't get me wrong I am all for marriage  , all for love, ( evident in the fact that I watched days of our lives for almost ** years of my life)  and all for relationships.I mean I have saved pictures from bella naija and some other weddings sites and I may or may not have my playlist for my wedding*wink*. However, I feel that nobody should be  pressured into it . Nobody should be made to feel unhappy or inadequate because they are unmarried.. Some of us have even come to believe that that is where our happiness lies but the truth is that there are married people that are truly unhappy and there are single people that are unhappy too so happiness does not necessarily depend on your relationship status changing or a huge ring being placed on your finger or being single either.
               It lies in knowing yourself and loving yourself first .  You only bring to the table who you are , if you are an unhappy person, the fact that a wedding takes places does does not mean that space of unhappiness suddenly disappears( More on this in later post). This unhappiness and desperation has led a lot of people to settle for less and to worry. You should love yourself enough not to settle for someone who does not respect you or treat you right . I know society tries to  put this pressure on however, society will not be there with you when you are sad and you feel all alone in  the marriage.  Nobody should make you rush into anything you are not ready for or make you question God's ability to give you the right person. The one who respects you and loves you  and appreciates you .
 You see, me too , I love love, I love the romantics, and Love to be loved but I am against rushing into a marriage because of society or any other wrong reasons. You are the apple of God's eye. His own masterpiece. A reflection of him made in his image and his likeness . You deserve to be treated right, you deserve to be loved right and treated with honor , " the bible says  that a husband is to love the wife even as Christ loves the church" - eph 5: 25

"Husband, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church - a love marked by giving , not getting. Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty.Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, Dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness". - The Mess Eph 5 : 25- 28

Don't let this pressures undermine what God has planned for you. Let it be resolved in your mind that his plans for you are "Good " .Don't you think finding a good partner is good? Don't you think being treated right is good ? I tell you that as long you are open to marriage , you are being sociable, the right person would come along. You don't need to worry or settle .
 "For I know the plans that I have for you ' declares the lord , plans for good and not for disaster to give you a future and a hope". - Jer 29: 11

I know its pretty hard for some of us not to worry about it but worrying really does not help. It is also a demonstration of lack of trust in God. No to fear, No to worrying and Yes to Enjoying yourself, being happy ,holding on to what God says and going about life knowing that  Jesus has got you covered.

Must See Clip ;Yes! I am Single !!!!!!!!

Hey people. This week  is  pretty exciting for me as I share my perspective on a very delicate issue "Marriage" . I had heard about the pressure in our society about it .However , I was in school away from home so I hadn't experienced it first hand.  It was quite surprising and interesting  that  not long after I got home, I had this conversation ;
 Aunt :Is there anybody,
Me :No
Aunt :  Why ?
Me :  Well, because there just  isn't anyone
 Then I had a smile on my face and I laughed about it. To my surprise , my aunt who is usually laid back had this stern look and states that it is a serious issue. Caught up with old friends to discover there were similar issues all around. Lets not bring in the weddings and the side comments by people about when yours is going to happen . This inspired the decision to talk about it .Enjoy the discussion below that covers part of this topic. I found this video  really intriguing  don't necessarily agree with every perspective shared  but it truly covers a lot of the insecurities and issues people have because of the pressures affiliated with marriage. Please share and do check out my post on Wednesday; for the Song Of The Week and Friday for the post  "The set up a.k.a as  "Yes I  Am Single 2".




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